Bumble Boost unlocks a load of other features to help you entice that match, including a SuperSwipe, which jumps the queue by notifying the other person you really like them without them having to match with you. It’s only fair, really – if you spend months extending a match and she doesn’t reply, then perhaps you have a slight problem with taking a hint. You can only do this once a day unless you upgrade to Bumble Boost to extend matches, but even then you can only extend each match once. She’ll receive a notification you’ve done so and this may persuade her you’re very interested. If your match is about to expire and you don’t want to miss out, you can extend it to give her a bump. Honestly, people love telling you about themselves – have you been on Instagram recently? Once you’ve made contact, however, keep the questions open so you can cultivate the conversation. You can ask a series of questions based on your own likes if you like (never dislikes, remember, stay positive), or you can use closed questions or give them options if you don’t want them to think too hard. They key is to get them curious, not send them running them for the hills, so something like, “How many people have you killed by your own hand” won’t go down that well. I don’t know what you’d call it, cheeky I guess, and say they have to get in touch to know your answer. You can either answer the question yourself in your profile or be. It can be funny, stupid or serious, as long as it elicits a response. Be inquisitiveĪsk a question on your profile it definitely helps. Overly posed cheesy pics – if you are a writer, please do not pose pensively with a quill to your chin – will not get you the contact you require. Please be in all your photos – landscape photos of the majestic Serengeti are not relevant unless you’re standing in shot, gurning in wonder. Even more powerful are pictures with pets (dogs or cats not weird ones like lizards or wasps), or doing something interesting – whether it’s paragliding, rock-climbing, at a festival, on a beach (no muscle poses) or brandishing a cocktail shaker. A slew of selfies is pretty suspect – like, can you really not ask someone to take a photo of you? Nobody? A pic with your friends so she can see the kind of people you hang out with – please do not be drunk on this photo and make sure you are the best looking man in it – and candid shots other people have taken of you because you looked nice/it was a great moment etc will do. A full body pic is essential or she’ll think you have something to hide, but keep your clothes on – at least leave her something to unwrap should she wish to. You don’t want to be unattractive, do you? No. Oh, and absolutely avoid negativity: a large shopping list of what you don’t want is unattractive. Bragging is bad enough lying is unforgivable. Also, don’t say things like “I love the finer things in life” if you are not an oligarch and thus only talking about buying the most expensive calzone in Pizza Express. I’m sure one of your favourite dating gurus told you women are only interested in money and status, but while security and confidence are important, if you give off wanker vibes you will not attract the right women. The places you travel are interesting and relevant and the reason you travel is also worth mentioning. Luxe holidays and big cars – never pose with your car unless you’re looking to be cast in a documentary about rich virgins – are all very well, but they tell her nothing about you. Your profile should be aspirational but attainable. Forget your zillion-swipe scattergun, dreary one-line openers or unsolicited topless shots – women have to send the first message on Bumble, so if you want to stand out you have to change your thinking. It’s the app that puts women in control, which means there’s an art to using Bumble if you want a reply.
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